Stuck Doing the Same Chores Again and Again: Is this all there is?

You prepare a meal, feed the kids, then clean up the meal.

A couple of hours in between where you might hang the clothes out and sweep the floor

Then again you prepare a meal, feed the kids, then clean up the meal.

If you’re lucky there are no complaints about your meal, and everyone eats it happily.

Then it’s time to get the clothes in, fold and put away. Ready to be repeated again next week and the week after that and the week following that.

Then time to prepare yet another meal, feed the kids, then clean up the meal.

It is just so monotonous!

One of the hardest things about it is that there is rarely any gratitude for the work done.

And definitely no pay.

The work is never done. It has to be repeated again and again and again, day after day, week after week.

It’s hard to feel any sense of accomplishment.

How do we get through the drudgery of chores?

Zoom Out and Look at the Big Picture

When stuck in the detail it’s easy to get depressed.

But try zooming out. What are all these chores accomplishing long term?

Often it seems like nothing, but what you’re doing in these chores is a critical part in raising a human being.

Think about that – your job is to raise a human being!

A human being is one of the most complicated, intelligent, amazing things on this planet!

And you have been chosen to care for one, or maybe two or three… or more!

This is a huge responsibility!

And part of raising that human is feeding it and keeping it warm and protected with clean clothes.

Sure, sometimes these little humans are messy and frustrating and demanding. But, truthfully, so am I sometimes!

When my kids were younger they often had times when they couldn’t control their anger and the smallest thing seemed to set them off. But honestly, I have times still when I just need to scream to let it all out. Usually in my car when I’m driving so no one will hear me (I hope!)

1. Raising a Child is a Long Term Investment – Very Long!

You put your time, effort and energy into caring for these little humans. But honestly it doesn’t seem that there is much to show for all the hours you put in.

Humans are a long, long, looooong term investment.

You invest your time and energy now, but won’t see the fruit of your work until many years down the track.

This makes it hard to stay motivated to keep going.

We are used to quick wins and being rewarded for our efforts in a short timeframe.

Raising a child is different. Every small act you do compounds in your child’s life and by the time they’re 21 the compound effect is huge!

2. Imagine the Impact on Your 21 Year Old Child

Imagine 2 scenarios:

  1. A 21 year old who has low self esteem. He doesn’t think he’s worth much. He’s never felt truly loved. He tries anything to fit in and feel accepted by others. Smoking, partying, drugs. Anything to feel like he belongs.
  2. A 21 year old who knows he’s loved. He doesn’t give in to peer pressure because he knows he’s already accepted. He’s motivated and has purpose. He has time for his family because he feels accepted and loved there no matter what and his family always had time for him when he was younger.

Your role as a mother has a huge impact on your child’s life.

There are many ways that you can show your child that you love them. By listening to them, spending time with them, cuddling and playing with them, reading to them, giving them notes of love and small gifts.

Chores may be mundane but they also tell your child that you care.

3. Investing Time in Your Family Is Never Regretted

I have never read about someone at their death bed regret the time that they spent with their family!

But many times I have read of people regretting time spent in paid work. Work that took them away from their family. Regretting that they didn’t spend more time with their family.

Investing time in your family will not be something you regret – ever!

It may be hard now because there are often no obvious rewards, but long term it will be so worth it!

Chores Are An Awesome Way To Teach Your Kids Life Skills

Chores can also be a great way to spend time with your child and teach them life skills. We used this book to setup weekly paid jobs for our kids and unpaid jobs too. It is written in a down to earth way and really makes it easy to get started.

Get kids involved in cooking meals and making food choices. If we can teach them these things when they are young it will help to do 3 things:

  1. make meal times easier – kids are much more likely to eat a meal if they’ve been involved in the cooking process.
  2. make the load easier on you in a couple years when they can cook a meal for the family with minimal input from you.
  3. prepare them for when they one day move out of home, and you know they can cook healthy food for themselves.

The One Thing That Motivates Me On The Hard Days

There are days that are harder than others.

Days when I can’t see the point.

Days when I feel depressed about doing the same thing again and again and again.

Days when I’m cooking in the kitchen after a full day and not feeling any motivation for keeping going.

Days when I just feel overwhelmingly sad for no apparent reason.

On these days the thing that gets me through is remembering that I’m created for a purpose. You may or may not believe in God, but I believe that he created me to love me and for me to love him back.

Check out this song by Toby Mac. It lifts me and puts purpose back in my life.